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Great Book About African American Female Friendship

The Awesome Girl's Guide to Dating Extraordinary Men - Ernessa T. Carter

I loved this book. It took a bit to get me into it since it started off so slow, but then it picked up and I could not put it down. I loved reading about the four friends (Sharita, Thursday, Risa, and Tammy). All four women want to find love and are dealing with living in Los Angeles with the added parts of one of the women's relatives comments about finding love with an extraordinary man. 

 

The book follows them through the year preceding their 30s and I would say the year afterwards. All of the women end up in different places than they though.


I think out of the women my favorite is Sharita. That is not to say she does not have some issues. She's a successful black women trying her best to become a Vice President at her bank. Only problem is that Sharita's picker is broken as hell. She keeps trying for men who she gives everything to and don't appreciate it. There is one scene with Sharita's latest that I wanted to slap the dude who had the nerve to tell her she should just be happy with the bare minimum he's giving since he is not married/divorced with multiple kids and has a job. I wanted to reach through the book and ring his neck. Due to Sharita dropping everything for a dude (that has never been me) she ends up falling out with long-time friend Thursday.

 

Thursday is still dealing with the suicide of her mother a decade earlier. Thursday is the daughter of a well known rapper that she is estranged from. Trying to do stand-up talking about how dating black men are the worst, Thursday only dates white men. Yeah, Thursday has some straight up daddy issues. I did find her to be the best at seeing her friends faults clearly. She has some definite blind-spots though.

 

Risa is a mess. A happy mess, but a mess still. She met Sharita and Thursday at Smith college and mourns the fact that one day she will lose her friends to marriage and babies. Risa still is in love with a woman she calls "The One" who would not come out to her family or marry Risa. Risa is now focused on being a rock star. She is truly ride or die for her friends, but does not have much time for their nonsense. When she stages an intervention for Sharita due to her posting too much about Jesus on Facebook and going to church three times a week I was laughing so hard I started to cry.


The weak spot in this book was Tammy though. Although this book is about four supposed best friends, Tammy was barely in it. You find out why later on though, but for most of the book I was wondering.

The secondary characters are very good in this one. We have Sharita's lame ass boyfriend, Thursday's lame ass boyfriend, Risa seducing people to get a chance to go on tour, etc. Everyone felt very well drawn. 

The writing had me cracking up in parts. The dialogue reminded me of how it sounds when my friends and I get together.

 

The ending I found a little too pat though. Still very enjoyable!